WILL you have a happy Christmas? Well, that all depends upon what level of happiness you feel you deserve!
Perhaps you’ve given up on ever finding the intensity and heat of that elusive state of joy or bliss, and you’re satisfied instead with the warm glow of contentment and pleasure.
Sadly for some people happiness in any form is a struggle to achieve, let alone to sustain.
Your sub-conscious mind has already created its own belief system, and set up its own template for your life, from the time you were about six years old.
This then determines what you’ll expect in life, and how happy you’ll ‘allow’ yourself to be.
Did you know that you are responsible for at least 40 per cent of your happiness levels at any given time?
According to research from the Positive Psychology movement we all have a base-line of 50 per cent of our happiness which was shaped in our early years.
Then there’s an extra 10 per cent of ‘temporary’ happiness – from such things as the new car, holiday, lottery win, cosmetic treatment etc.
When this wears off we return to our former level of happiness.
That leaves the 40 per cent that is under our control.
The researchers tell us that we can build this up for ourselves, and keep our overall level of happiness in the higher ranges by:
Having an optimistic mindset;
Practising realistic thinking and achievable goal-setting;
Comparing ourselves favourably with others;
Showing ourselves compassion and loving self-care;
Showing forgiveness – for whatever we feel able to forgive right now;
Nurturing our loving relationships;
Showing kindness and doing good deeds for others – the ‘Helper’s High’;
Having a sense of purpose and of making a positive difference to other people’s lives.
If you’d like to find out how to increase your own 40 per cent of happiness then please accept a FREE gift from me of my E-booklet called ‘7 Keys To Unlock Your Happiness – How To Release Your Happiness And Find Peace Of Mind’.
You can get it directly at http://bit.ly/7KeysFree.
May you enjoy being as happy as you can be!
Maxine Harley (MSc Psychotherapy)
Maxine Harley has a masters degree in psychotherapy, has written two books, and created four new approaches to psychological, emotional and physical well-being. She lives happily in Chichester with her daughter and grandson.